Over the course of your life, you would have signed a ton of things, checks, credit card receipts, letters, applications, documents and what not! And before signing anything you make sure to read what you’re signing, then why isn’t the same applied to your nikkah-nama?
Many women unthinkingly sign this piece of paper without reading it or knowing their rights. And Dr. Sassi Malik Sher is here to change it!
https://twitter.com/SassiMalikSher/status/1265336494232940547?s=19
2 days prior to her Nikkah, she made sure she went through the nikkahnama thoroughly, understanding all the clauses before signing it, urging other women to do the same and the twitterati stand proud of her!
Definitely when we read even the ingredients on a jam jar, this decision is for life https://t.co/WlHoeIZlG7
— Fariha (@Farihaq1) May 27, 2020
Absolutely!
Not only should women read the nikahnama before marriage, they should fill it out themselves!
— Simi Kamal سیمیں کمال (@simisadafkamal) May 26, 2020
Such a great thing to do, here’s hoping all of us do the same when the time comes:
I invited my son in law before Nikah with my daughter and explained both of them that this is the most important and precious contract of ur life and read it carefully and then sign it.Together forever till Jannah 🤲
— Dr Samia Raheel Qazi (@SamiaRQazi) May 27, 2020
Jo baat hai!
Everyone should read and add clause(s) as per requirement, it is your right, know your right, Islam gives you rights. https://t.co/JFp0WGJ3eH
— Abdullah Mukaddam (@AbMukaddam) May 27, 2020
Others were sharing their first hand experiences:
https://twitter.com/Ladycrane15/status/1265573043293822983?s=19
It sure is:
Thats an awareness tweet. Public service message for all unmarried girls.
— Sadia A 🇵🇰 (@Dr_SadiaAz) May 26, 2020
While many argued how it isn’t really tabboo, others shared the real picture:
When I inquired about why the divorce clause from the papers that we were filling out for my bhabhi is being crossed out, my father got so furious & I got a pretty bad scolding! Never opened my mouth after that! So yes it’s a taboo that shouldn’t be! https://t.co/s6cR5Al67G
— Zuha Bari (@ZuhaBari) May 27, 2020
Sad but true at the same time:
https://twitter.com/SmaackJaw/status/1265556284687908866?s=19
Men were sharing how they encouraged their wives to read the contract before hand:
i sent blank Nikah Nama form to my wife @BiyaAli9 before our Nikah, explained her about her rights and then half of forms she filled by herself. https://t.co/NHTWyVJ9vy
— Ali (@cestleonow) May 27, 2020
I encouraged my wife to read everything. I even wanted to have her rights column filled. Unfortunately the guys filling the form didnt know what to put in their. Its good to have everything in writing but one must respect the vows even when they are not in black and white.
— Nauman Ahmed Sheikh (@naumanahmed18) May 26, 2020
An example to be followed!
Good going! Every girl should do this. https://t.co/NKM3Ng82JZ
— Ramisha Ali (@ramishaali_) May 27, 2020
Girls were sharing their own experiences:
Yeah, it's all about Breaking stereotypes. Some days back before Nikah, went through all the clauses of #Nikahnama and asked for the delegated rights which are normally been cancelled out even without any consultation. https://t.co/kooA6u7XUh
— Erum Yousaf (@Bint_e_Yousaf) May 26, 2020
Yaaaaas!
normalize this queen behaviour https://t.co/l27X2Un7LR
— Mehdi (@SzpilmanStinson) May 27, 2020
Please!
Desi women need to realize nikah papers aren't user agreement licence or terms and conditions for an app that you blindly agree to. Give it a read, understand and sign up. https://t.co/Iqt8zf99PV
— talha (@Tallhhaa_) May 27, 2020
Facts!
https://twitter.com/Laa_aaly/status/1265361709008662529?s=19
People were agreeing on how important it is:
All would be brides must do that, I have heard that lot of mullas delete the clause where the girl has the right to divorce.
— Hassan Parvez (@hassanparvez101) May 26, 2020
Your deen has given you this power, use it:
https://twitter.com/Allah_ki_bandii/status/1265490846889189377?s=19
Exactly why it needs to change:
Read it or not it doesn’t quite matter since the men in the family always manage to get it done their way at the time of signatures. https://t.co/TkkEbylYrV
— K. (@On_the_edge0) May 27, 2020
We cannot stress enough:
https://twitter.com/Slythfeminist/status/1265384892059340801?s=19
Same!
I admire you and I pray that every girl dares to do so. https://t.co/pnV6OMGHnt
— Lubna Abbas (@LubnaAbbas7) May 27, 2020
She was an inspiration to many:
https://twitter.com/temi_theTaurus/status/1265493560381575174?s=19
Inspiration ❤️ https://t.co/QE7ftwXB2p
— My dear Peaches (@bhuuttaf) May 26, 2020
People were hoping other women would follow her:
Stay strong lady, its your basic right to read every clause & sign it with your complete consent, hopes for others to follow you. 👍
— Obaid Bhatti (@Obibhatti) May 26, 2020
Go queeeeen!
Tbvh I'm gonna do the same. It's about my life. https://t.co/3O6ozVxzc1
— R I D A 🇵🇰 || 🇦🇪 (@__SyedaRida) May 27, 2020
What do you think about normalizing women reading and filling out their nikkah-namas themselves? Let us know in the comments below!
Marriage = Contractual Slavery.
I pity these contractual slaves.