In a society where marriage is seen as the ultimate goal of one’s life, people have a ton of questions for both men and women when it comes to the rishta meet ups. And believe it or not, but we’ve heard the craziest rishta meeting stories with the most absurd questions being thrown around.
And while it’s true that women are subjected to way more judgement than men, this guy thinks that men too shouldn’t be asked certain questions when being considered for marriage:
https://twitter.com/Shujaatsays/status/1251132375083483136?s=19
And the internet is up for a debate!
Don't you think if we normalized the culture of women working and being equal bread winners of their family, this wouldn't be a problem? Then men won't be expected to provide at all because a woman & a man can together make a home?
— World's Spiciest Ramen🇵🇸 (@dezgostang) April 18, 2020
Some thought there was nothing wrong in asking these questions:
Everyone wants a safe future its not a big deal
— delululu🇵🇸🍉 (@user236587) April 18, 2020
Some were sharing the actual questions that need to be asked:
Such a good approach. Actually Why don't people say ;
*Beti ko khush rkho gay? Bhook pyaas brdaasht kr lay gi lekin Kabhi bewafai to nhi kro gay? Humesha dil k kreeb rkho gay? Aitebaar qaiym rkho gay?*
This is what a girl really need Qasam lay lo https://t.co/HAsG5FMQIK— Bakhtawer (@Baktawerr) April 17, 2020
Many wanted to know if he’d skip the questions when looking for a guy for his own sister:
https://twitter.com/antisubtle_/status/1251250999437729798?s=19
Many were of the opinion that men are seen as poverty eradication systems by their own parents:
https://twitter.com/dontdmmeplease/status/1251498297287561216?s=19
Some shared how women too face similar problems:
https://twitter.com/Laalaen/status/1251156721260654593?s=19
Many blamed patriarchy for it:
Aah yes cannot imagine who came up with the idea that a woman's place is in the house and a man's role is to be the breadwinner of the family.
Kero bread win akeley iss economy mein, ab. https://t.co/RrhWr99U4g
— Aimun (@bluemagicboxes) April 18, 2020
Men made these rules. You stop your daughters from studying, working, and earning and then tell them that the man they marry will take all their responsibility. Then why wouldn't women look for rich men to fulfil their dreams? Men reject poor guys for their daughters. https://t.co/s7JcpmMqCO
— Meph⚓ (@UnitedsFreak) April 18, 2020
Many thought that if women were treated equally as men at home and their workplace, they wouldn’t have to rely on men:
https://twitter.com/maulana_banana/status/1251419172527050757?s=19
Some answered him why these questions are important:
Ap apna khercha nahi utha sakte to biwi ka khaak uthaen gey?
— Insight (@ihadmyreasons) April 18, 2020
Many found the question to be fair:
https://twitter.com/Bint_e_Sadiq/status/1251227623633629186?s=19
https://twitter.com/iUsmanaliii/status/1251482126756859905?s=19
Beshak!
What we need is only understanding cuz Allah said *tm fakeer hogy, nikah karo mein tmhy ghani kardoon ga*
Or yahan parents ko phly stability chaye phir rishta dein gy 💔— Sofia Sarfraz (@Toothfairy_SA) April 17, 2020
Many wanted parents to be more considerate:
Parents should allow their children to choose a partner and then without dating and doing haram stuff, arrange both's parents meeting and get married. But no, our parents are not ready for this conversation
— Mike (@_Orophile) April 17, 2020
Baat toh sach hai:
If beauty of a girl is not everything, with the same scale the earnings of the boy is not everything…Marriage has to be the easiest thing in society but unfortunately it is not.
— Waqas Ahmed (@WakasRana) April 17, 2020
Many considered these questions to be vital:
In islam, the girl should have same standard of life after marriage as well. These valid questions must be asked otherwise don’t get married https://t.co/6K0fGAhCLq
— Salman Ali (@MSalmanAli96) April 18, 2020
Some had very wise solutions to offer:
Rishta dhundtay waqt larkay ka character, uska behavior or achai dekhen. 25 ki age mein har tarah se settle larka dhundna chor den. Allah pe bharosa rakhen.
— Dr. Rizwan (@siddiqee93) November 30, 2019
Some were of the opinion that both the genders should be spared from judgement:
https://twitter.com/TF9920/status/1251442418513305600?s=19
Many agreed how women face so much more discrimination:
How are people getting triggered by this when it says ye culture BHI khatam hona chahie??
Like how women are seen as showpiece for families in rishta hunts!Dr chahie,dehej bhi lena ha,pari likhi ho,lekin job na kare,age,etc…Of course women face a 100 times more objectification https://t.co/9Y2hV1jmAb
— A – Heroinchi (@FitnayFatway) April 18, 2020
Some agreed how both men and women need to fight this culture together:
https://twitter.com/garebaankataar/status/1251480931300507649?s=19
Grow together, earn together, build your life together! Let’s get rid of this shit system. https://t.co/r9L7mliIsx
— Esha Khan (@inconsistentbae) April 18, 2020
Some believed one shouldn’t get married if they can’t provide for their partner:
My take on this would be, Not marrying any1 if you're fully ready to take the responsibility. Fk the society n norms. Altho even if the man not wealthy enough(Yet) nd both of them think they'll sustain a better life together. Then i dont really think marrying is a bad option.♥️ https://t.co/AFkcdaFwtn
— Umer 🔥 (@UmerAamirIam) April 18, 2020
Some thought sugar daddies were the solution:
https://twitter.com/MUsman_TWT/status/1251441890182004736?s=19
Some schooled him how he should quit playing the victim:
https://twitter.com/caffeineandcar/status/1251227392473026560?s=19
Some came back at him with memes:
https://twitter.com/Sindhu_Abasi/status/1251486455546945537?s=19
Some thought the tweet was a joke:
A girl marrying you, leaving her family, spending the rest of her life raising children and everything while she cant even expect financial stability lmao theek hai cameray mei haath hila dete hain hahha nbd https://t.co/vh3517bdDa
— ن (@urtaykhuwaab) April 18, 2020
Many agreed how this needed to end:
https://twitter.com/aitembumb/status/1251399846197673984?s=19
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